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Journal Entry: Tue Nov 8, 2011, 8:02 AM
A teacher in New York was teaching her class about bullying and gave them the following exercise to perform. She had the children take out a piece of paper and told them to crumple it up, stomp on it and really mess it up, not to rip it. Then she had them unfold the paper, smooth it out and look at how scarred and dirty it was. She then told them to tell it they're sorry. Now, even though they said they were sorry and tried to fix the paper, she pointed out all the scars they left behind. And that those scars will never go away no matter how hard they tried to fix it. That is what happens when a child bullies another child, they may say they're sorry, but the scars are there forever. The looks on the faces of the children in the classroom told her the message hit home. Copy and paste this if you are against bullying.


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Dalyla-Imaginarium Featured By Owner Apr 2, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Thank you!
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Thorbeastwolvie Featured By Owner May 30, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
dude....empowering total support
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InkDrawnDreamer Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2011  Student General Artist
This is a very good excercise, I wish they'd done it when I was in grade school.
(My social studies teacher this year actually made us do something similar to this for a Reconstruction simulation.)
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StarlightAngel-Wolf Featured By Owner Nov 13, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
this should be an exercise in every school. That really gets the message across so much better than words "don't bully people, it's wrong, it hurts people. Ignore bullies and they will leave you alone or tell them they hurt you, call for help"
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SirKittenpaws Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2011  Professional General Artist
Yeah, "ignore them" is the worse tip ever :(
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Bfoxkk Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
they dont go into detail like this at ours schools

they just tell us to call kids help phone.
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jayfoxfire Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011
Wow, they shoulda used this in my high school.....which now I'm out of there thankfully XD
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iheartebil Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Hmm... After reading the many posts below, I feel this excercise the teacher has done, is a good intention but I don't think it can solve anything. But its a first step... But those who would understand the message is probably the victims themselves rather than the bullies....

It likes telling teenagers don't drink and drive, or don't speed while driving, but you know what their mindsets are "I'm invincible! No body can touch me! Nothing can harm me!" [and then boom, car crashes and they are getting charged with vehicular manslaughter!] I think its the exact same thing... Nothing would probably change and/or the bullies probably won't even put two in two together [that the kid you are picking on and isolating and making miserable is called bullying]

I've been bullied but not to the extent others have been saying [either that, or I don't remember at all what actually happened] All I remember, are the feelings left behind. I felt alone, isolated, and hated school. Luckily (?) my teachers were not as bad as others have gone through below... mine actually listened and the bullies stopped.

I appreciate you victims of bullies! You guys are very strong to go through such ordeals over rather long periods of time! You guys are my inspiration! Don't Give Up!

And for those who say "suck it up" <-- that is the WORST advice ever! WHY? Why should they [victims] "suck it up" why don't the bullies just "suck it up" and get over their jeolousy or whatever reason they give to torment others! The victims shouldn't be victimized again... no I think its time bullies realize how painful it really is! If anything, Silence is a killer! I say, fight!
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SirKittenpaws Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011  Professional General Artist
yes you're right you can't teach most of the children, BUT if they're young they can learn easier.

I was bullied since I was kid and it haven't stopped yet.

I was very sad how many hateful comments I saw.
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TommyGK Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
Bully victim here.

Your teacher is a saint, this exercise needs to be taught to EVERYONE.
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SirKittenpaws Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011  Professional General Artist
I know many of my teachers tried to teach things like this too.
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SwerveStar Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
That's an impressive idea that that teacher had...

I would know how bad bullying can be.
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Lugbzurg Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Yes. I was bullied when I was a kid. Nowhere near as bad as everyone else here, I would assume, but it still happened. This reminds me of something me and some other kids were supposed to do. We were supposed to get some white cloth hearts and get them as dirty as possible. It was for Sin, though, not bullying. I found a table with a big glob of some raspberry/gum-like stuff, but I didn't win. 'Cause someone else might have cheated by going outside and dunking their heart in a mud puddle.
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AyanAyzodei Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011   General Artist
what's worse, a profoundly moving exercise like that, or 20 or 40% of those kids becoming street bullies? I opt for the former. Good idea.
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Machop-Fan Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Amazing!

*copies*
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FreakieGeekie Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
We actually did that when I was in elementary. Didn't stop the bullying though.
But me beating up a guy twice my size did.
I know violence isn't the answer but he was a teacher's pet and when I would tell on him the teacher acted as if she didn't care. At one point, she actually had the nerve to say "If you don't stop tattling I'm going to write "tattler" on a piece of paper and pin it to your shirt tail!"
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SirKittenpaws Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011  Professional General Artist
It may not stop it right away. These are thoughs, and thoughs are working slowly.

Oh and it's so annoying when you're in trouble but noone cares :(
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FreakieGeekie Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
It would help too if parents would teach their kids to not be hateful. Would also help if people didn't bend to their kids' every whim.

Very annoying. I saw that same teacher a few days ago while shopping. She actually had the gall to speak to me but I pretended I didn't remember her.
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jacij Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011   General Artist
Nice story but I seriously doubt it'd have much if any effect on the kids it needs to since most kids who bully don't care (sociopaths or self absorbed), are too stupid, too prone to peer pressure or so insecure and messed up themselves that a little exercise like this is not going to work. In fact some kids would probably think it's great that they could have a permanent negative effect on another person :P
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SirKittenpaws Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011  Professional General Artist
it really depends on the kids age too.
You can't teach a teenager, if you try it will do the opposite.
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akari-L Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
really wise teacher...also a really nice way to practically teach the children about what happens when a child is bullied...it seriously leaves a dent in their memories.
but i ll also say that...most people who bully others dont get this entire idea in their head and continue to do it no matter what... i ma saying this from personal experience..when i was in elementary school..even we had exercises regarding bullying...but the kids who bullied me didnt really understand the message...and continued to do so..it stopped only after i transferred.
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LexiCon94 Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Bullying does leave scars... pretty big ones too depending on how bad the bullying was.
I'll share my story with you, but let me make it clear that I don't want pity from any of you. Yes, I was bullied. For 4 years straight, ever since fourth grade and it started with my own friends betraying me. They turned their back on me, all because of this one girl who enjoyed the thought of making me miserable. What I did to her to make her hate me so much, I'll never know.
And thats why when people say: "kids are innocent, they can't be cruel" I say it's a load of bull.

But it doesn't stop there. Things got worse in 6th and 7th grade. Everyone in my classroom, everyone no exceptions bullied my everyday,every hour, every minute they could. And by everyone I mean the teachers too, even they would laugh at me. 30 people hurting you verbally and physically every day makes you feel like a worthless pile of crap. I've been there, I know. Even the principal told me to "suck it up". So I did, and it only ended up in me being so emotionally scarred I needed therapy. But I never went to therapy, because of money issues and family problems adding up to that. I managed on my own. Transfered to another school, started anew and finally understood that being emo and crying wouldn't help me at all. Today, I'm pretty normal though more mature than most people because I know you just can't open up and trust anyone you meet. I take things seriously, I'm quiet but not because I'm shy, because I know that sometimes you just need to say a few intelligent words than opening your mouth only to say stupid piles of worthless words every time you do.

I believe that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I've taken the fall and now I've gotten back up. Why? Because I'm stubborn, and I'm not about to give those bastards the satisfaction of seeing me sink even deeper. I still, however, can never forgive what they did to me and if I ever saw them again I swear I would make their lives hell.
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anniefelis Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011
People are faving the fuck out of this when it's on somebody else's journal. Okay kids, I'll spell it out:

FAKE. IT IS A CHAIN MESSAGE THAT ORIGINATED FROM FACEBOOK. IT IS MOST LIKELY FAKE.

It's a nice little story, but the whole exercise would kind of sail over the heads of most younger kids. They'd do what the teacher told them and grumble and think the whole thing is dumb, because that's how little kids think. This is just like dozens of sap heartstring-tugging sob stories that are fabricated and then reposted over and over on Facebook just so somebody can have the glory of creating a chain message.

You want to prevent bullying? Teach the golden rule. Don't fabricate some dumb story that involves children stamping on paper.
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TommyGK Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
If it's a chainletter then its one hell of a chainletter and I'd pass it on.
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anniefelis Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011
I'd rather pass on a legit news article with the same sentiment than a fakey chain letter story. Chain letters can take the best of subjects and just turn them into doinky social hot potatoes.
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speckles2102 Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
it truly depends who the kid is, so don't go making accusions about others because not everyone is like you. though I do understand what your saying, yes, it may be a chain mail, but aren't people allowed to fav what they want? (even if it is chain mail?) and some kids would probably think this is stupid and give up on it, though it depends on the age and personality of the kid. that would probably make me fell bad too NOW and let's not even say how sad I would feel as a kid (I Still feel bad about throwing away my old toothbrush). Kid's should be learn't not to bully others when they're younge (as you said), and a chain mail probably won't do much accept make people aware of different situations. But you don't have to swear about it and get in a rage! It's just a chain mail and doesn't need your negative comments to down everyone else, so don't waist your time swearing over stuff like this because your not getting anywear with stopping people copying or faving this chain mail.
goodbye.
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anniefelis Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011
I'm allowed to say "hey guys, this is fake and fabricated" just as much as you're allowed to butcher the english language. Waisting time indeed.
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speckles2102 Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
agreed that we are both waisting time arguing about stuff that may not even invovle us... though is something like this in need of our negative comments? I mean- swearing about this wont half change a persons mind to pass it on, and me 'butchering on about the english language' wont half change your mind to add another comment. so what's the point of adding negative comments on the situation at hand. why don't we both just keep our negative comments away from our keyboards instead of making every one else feel down in the dumps from a long and tiresome battle.
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anniefelis Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2011
You don't even realize that I was making fun of your shoddy spelling with that "waisting time" snipe, do you?
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HUKUforALL Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2011  Hobbyist
*wasting
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anniefelis Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2011
I know it's wasting time, I was making fun of speckles2102, who can't spell half the words she types.
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FreakieGeekie Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
I don't know if this one is true but I do know that I had a teacher use that method on us. Didn't do a damned bit of good.
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anniefelis Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011
That's just it...it wouldn't do any good. Kids who are assholes will continue to be assholes and powertrip whenever they exert control over other kids. It's like that for adults too...have you ever been pulled over and harassed by a cop just because? I have. It doesn't change.
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FreakieGeekie Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
A lot of people with a little bit of power abuse the crap out of it.
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OverLapingLeafs Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Actually, if yer kind isn't a dumbass and has even a single ounce of intelligence, they'll easily understand the moral of the story. Hell, I'd have understood the depth of it even when I was 5. Why? Because I was a smart kid.

So saying they wouldn't even be able to comprehend it isn't true. If they don't comprehend it, the kid is just stupid.
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anniefelis Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011
You don't understand kids, do you? It doesn't matter how bright they are, it matters how mature they are. Even if they get the point, they won't care because the exercise is dumb and they'll focus on what they think is a waste of time over something useful to learn.
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speckles2102 Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm a kid, and most of us care alot more than you think.
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anniefelis Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2011
Then maybe I just happened to be surrounded by indifferent, selfish assholes when I was a kid.
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speckles2102 Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
well then maybe their not the kind of people you should hang around with.
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anniefelis Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2011
They're. They are. Say it with me. They're.

English lesson aside, I'm saying when I was a child there were a lot of selfish people in my school. They were folks that were fairly apathetic towards others, no doubt due to how they were raised. I had people I hung around with who were nice, but you can't pick and choose who is in your class.
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speckles2102 Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
very true, though then you should know that at least some kids would understand the message that 'the teacher' is showing them.
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OverLapingLeafs Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
kid*
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tune4jack Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011
*kindness and courtesy
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tune4jack Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011
FUCK, FINALLY. I've been going through the comments trying to find something that's at least semi-rational.

They'd do what the teacher told them and grumble and think the whole thing is dumb, because that's how little kids think.

Teenagers would have the same reaction. They'd all snicker through the demonstration and talk about how gay and pussy it was while they smoked on the street corner.

You want to prevent bullying? Teach the golden rule. Don't fabricate some dumb story that involves children stamping on paper.

Believe me, that will never work. Bullies live in their own neanderthalic world where they think that the only way to survive is by being the biggest cunt and that kindness courtesy is a sign of weakness. Bullies don't give a shit how they're treated and they care even less about how other people should be treated.
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anniefelis Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011
My point with the golden rule is that if you teach kids to treat others as they want to be treated from the start, they're less likely to be bullies. That and if you punish them any time they decide to get bossy or lord over somebody. Nasty bullying can be kept in check, but a parent really needs to pay attention to what their kid is up to away from home.

But yeah...even then there are people out there who compensate for their own insecurities by bullying others. It doesn't stop at children: there's many adults who do it as well. It's called "arrogance" when an adult does it, but it amounts to the same thing. Like a lousy cop who harasses people just because he or she can, or a store manager that makes employees miserable just because. There will always be bullies.
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tune4jack Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011
From what I've seen, it's not even about shortcomings. They think to themselves, "I'm stronger, more manipulative, and generally more threatening than everyone else. Therefore, I have the right to fuck with whomever I please."
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tune4jack Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011
*kindness and courtesy
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VEZONISME Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
I was going to comment, but then I saw this really cool picture in the DDs, which rarely ever happens.
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WaffleRyebread Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
OMG THIS TEACHER IS TURNING HER KIDS INTO PUSSIES!!!

A poor exercise in preventing bullying the way I see it. Also a poor way to show empathy.

"she pointed out all the scars they left behind. And that those scars will never go away no matter how hard they tried to fix it. "

I disagree. Bullies can only affect a person if that person let's them. If a person stands up to a bully, then he/she will never have to worry about being bullied by that person. I had my share of bullies (being a geek & whatnot) & people eventually learnt not to mess with me.

"That is what happens when a child bullies another child, they may say they're sorry, but the scars are there forever."

BULLSHIT! I was bullied as kid, but even I don't dwell in my past & let it affect the outcome of my life, so NO. Those scars don't last forever.

"Copy and paste this if you are against bullying."

I would if the exercise was teaching these kids to forget about the bullies & not let them get under thier skin. However, this exercise is turning them into pussies. They should be standing up for themselves, that how you deal with a bully!
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MariaShade Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
Sometimes bullies pick on you because they know you can't stand up for yourself, physically or emotionally. I was never able to stand up to my bully, I'm weak slow, and couldn't hurt someone even if they hurt me. And I couldn't ignore him, he was in my class, on my playground.

The scars fade in time yes, but if it was done enough they don't go away completely. I am still a fragile person, a few bad days and I risk falling into depression, I know myself well and often catch myself. But it all comes back to what I thought that bully had taught me.

"None of my friends are really my friends they just pity me."

Even though I have learnt it not to be true, that thought still haunts me when I'm feeling down, and its not easy to push away unless my friends are right there next to me to tell me the truth.
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